ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

"JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!" (jqj213)
05/06/2014 at 17:29 • Filed to: None

Yeah, I give up. Just got the message I did not want to hear at all. Seems to me !!!error: Indecipherable SUB-paragraph formatting!!! . Why the hell does this happen to me? What the hell am I doing wrong?

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So, we were talking about an upcoming test. She messaged me first joking about it. Then, she says out of the blue, "So I think Josh (her then ex) and I are back together." I just wanted to take my phone and throw it. I was about to. I punched my bed instead.

But then, she wants to keep talking to me about personal struggles and whats going on with her and Josh. I enjoy talking to her, but really?!?

Today has been fucking awful. im done. I'm just going to lay in bed all night. It has been awful. Nothing worked today, from almost getting in an accident this morning, to forgetting a big homework assignment at home. I then got yelled at by my teacher. The mowers went through the parking lot and covered my car is grass clippings. My hood and windshield got attacked by bird shit. Now this? God dammit!

I'm pissed. Im sorry for ranting.

DISCUSSION (56)

Brian Silvestro > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:31

Kinja'd!!!

ddavidn > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:31

Well that sucks.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Brian Silvestro
05/06/2014 at 17:32

That is a great gif!

Im just so pissed right now i cant fully enjoy it

jkm7680 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:32

Remember man, there's more fish in the sea. You'll find the right person. I guarantee it.

We all have bad days, weeks and more than that. Just relax, things will go your way soon.

For Sweden > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:32

I think

If she, presumably a person with her own agency, can't definitively determine if she is in a relationship, she may have issues.

offroadkarter > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:32

time to move on from this one it sounds like

Logansteno: Bought a VW? > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:33

Personally, it sounds like she just isn't worth the time and energy you're putting towards her. There's other fish in the sea man!

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > jkm7680
05/06/2014 at 17:34

Its just... its just... why? Hes left you three times now! why the hell cant you move on? he fucked up! He hurt you! Why aren't you done!

Why do you tell me we have a chance and then fuck me over like this? Is this a way to get cheap thrills? Honestly, im just basically shaking with anger and rage right now

Enginerrrrrrrrr > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:36

Dude, next time tell her you don't want to hear about the drama between her and her ex. Or at least give her shit about getting back together with him.

Trust me, I did all the same shit you are doing in high school and it never amounted to anything. I've learned that if girls aren't into you, then they just aren't. No need in moping over it. Go find another girl to mess around with and maybe that will get the attention of the one you actually want. High school is about figuring this kind of shit out you and your lady friend won't really know what they want until later.

Now get back out there and go get em.

Oh and at least this gives you an excuse to have some one-on-one with your car.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > For Sweden
05/06/2014 at 17:37

Well is because they have broken up three times already since he is scared of committing. But now he says he is falling in love with her and they are great and she is buying into it and she said he never really asked her out so they kind of are together but kind of aren't and I dont know why the fuck I even kept listening at this point

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Logansteno: Bought a VW?
05/06/2014 at 17:38

Its just GOD DAMMIT WE WERE MAKING PROGRESS! SHE SAID WE HAD A CHANCE TOGETHER!!!!!!!!! Now this it just.... I dont even know...

im just done for this year

jkm7680 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:38

Sounds to me like she feels guilty, or regretful about something that she did to him. Cheated? I don't know.

I was friends with a girl in High School who was apparently in a "Loving relationship" with good guy Greg. We were friends, but I was not dating her. She told me that she had slept with three other guys while in that very same relationship. That wasn't the kind of person that I'd like screwing me over. Move on, there's plenty others out there.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > offroadkarter
05/06/2014 at 17:38

yup.. this was the last straw. I cant do this anymore

PS9 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:38

"I was really into you though. Glad things are working out with you and Josh, but I guess that means the end of the road for you and I."

After that, move on. Rip it off like a band-aid, and be done. Try another girl.

RacecaR > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:40

Not sure how you feel about drum and bass, but give this song a listen. It may only fuel your rage, but it also may help.

Also, like others have basically said, this too shall pass. Move on young man. You will look back on this in 10-15 years and think "WTF was I so worked up about?"

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > PS9
05/06/2014 at 17:40

Im really tempted to say something like that now because why the hell should i care?

Im done now.. i just need to know how to stop being in this awkward friend zone where there is nothing but a sort of friend ship

Logansteno: Bought a VW? > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:40

Shhh... It's okay, I went through the same thing. Just hold off for a while. Explore your options and in a few months, if you still like her, give it a go again.

Spoon II > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:40

Brutal, but tomorrow's another, and most likely better day! I find things often go wrong all at once, but then you can sail pretty easily for a while.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > jkm7680
05/06/2014 at 17:41

I honestly dont even know or care at this point. i could find out, but why does it even matter?

I just need to now get out of this odd friendship chat im now stuck in

ttyymmnn > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:42

She's playing you for a fool and you're taking it hook, line and sinker. Move on. If she's treating you like this out of a relationship, how do you think she'd treat you in a relationship? I have no idea how old you are, though these sorts of games tend to get played in a certain span of ages. So I figure you've got a good long time to look for somebody who wants to be with you and you with them. Be patient.

jkm7680 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:42

Just tell her in a nice way, that you think that you two shouldn't associate anymore. That's fine to do, just a hello every once and a while when you pass each other in the hallways or something.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Enginerrrrrrrrr
05/06/2014 at 17:42

It just came out of no where. She said we had a chance! We were fucking flirting and getting close! Now this... it just filled me with a sort of depressed rage

PardonMyFlemish16 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:45

I should have followed my gut. Now I have radiation sickness from all these BETA WAVES.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Spoon II
05/06/2014 at 17:45

I sure as hell hope so... today has been filled with enough anger to the point that i just cant do anything but lay here in bed

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Logansteno: Bought a VW?
05/06/2014 at 17:46

i just need next year to come already. Meet a new girl, dont fuck around, and get her on the first try.... none of this bs

Logansteno: Bought a VW? > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:48

Or stay single and enjoy yourself. As someone who's been dating the same person for 2 1/2 years, trust me, it gets old after a while if you grow tired of them.

RotaryLover > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:49

Follow my last tip...damn. Sry man, but at least you know it's not worth it.

PS9 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:49

Step one is to jettison the idea of the 'friend zone'. You are not a victim. Women cannot corral you into a place you don't want to be in. There is no zone; just you with your own agency as a sentient being deciding to - or not to - invest your time and energy into a relationship of some kind with another person.

Step two is to recognize when things aren't working out for you, and when you've discovered that, doing what needs to be done, including and sometimes especially eliminating contact with the other person.

Step three is to move on. Try another girl, and keep trying until you don't have to anymore.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > RotaryLover
05/06/2014 at 17:51

im just glad i finally got to the end here. it wasnt the happy ending i wanted, but for a while this is done

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > PS9
05/06/2014 at 17:55

Just pretty much cut our ties.. it hurt. but its done now.

im scared to see what she replies with.. i know she will, she never leaves a message un-replied

Oh shit... the ding...

"idek if we are okay or not. But i mean we can still be friends and talk all the time"

what do i do? Can i still be friends? Id like to be but im scared of the awkwardness

Where have all the lightweights gone? > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:56

I've been in this same situation both in high school and in college. I'll spare you the stories, but the long and short of it is this: someone better or a fantastic opportunity is right around the corner for you, but you won't recognize it if you're stuck at your own pity party.

Cixelsyd > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:57

Here's the best advice I ever got when it came to this sort of thing. Be confident and be direct. If you are interested, make it known and that's it.

If the other party is interested, great, if not, move on. Plenty of others out there. No need to waste your time "making progress" and "having a chance."

Vicente Esteve > Brian Silvestro
05/06/2014 at 17:57

You are like, the Encyclopedia of GIFs.

offroadkarter > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:58

if it helps you feel any better, kidnap her and sell her to the Sultan of Brunei as a sex slave and laugh your way to the bank in your new Ferrari. I mean thats what I did would do...

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > jkm7680
05/06/2014 at 17:58

Well I basically cut ties saying that trying to have a thing is over.. I got this as a response

""idek if we are okay or not. But i mean we can still be friends and talk all the time""

so, im gonna leave it like that and talk to her when she talks to me... but basically that'll be it

jkm7680 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 17:59

That's probably the best way to handle it. If she wants to make the first move, then she can do that.

Good luck man!

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > jkm7680
05/06/2014 at 18:00

Thanks im just glad this is all done on a relationship level

PS9 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 18:01

are you comfortable continuing to talk to her, hang out with her (and her boyfriend) and maybe, occasionally, witness PDA between her and the other dude? because that's what 'we can still be friends' is going to mean for you.

If so, go for it.

If not, "I'm sorry, but we need to go our separate ways." and move on.

Lekker > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 18:02

Simple as we all want what we can't/shouldn't get.

I'm sorry to hear about your peril. I too went through that. Just remember everything happens for a reason. Everything. Even if sometimes the lesson is to learn to love less, or to love better.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > PS9
05/06/2014 at 18:03

im going to be leaving it at this... ill be there to talk to during class and if she writes me, ill respond. but i doubt that ill be starting many conversations with her.

Im okay with this for now

Brian Silvestro > Vicente Esteve
05/06/2014 at 18:05

GIS is very useful.

jkm7680 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 18:06

Yeah, That's the first step. Hope you get to destroy the birds that shat on your car. I'm looking outside of my window and can already see that the birds aren't taking it easy on me.

Enginerrrrrrrrr > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 18:06

Well work on getting over this setback and then drop that shit. Ain't no one got time for that. It's easy for me to say this, but I understand that it isn't easy. Believe me though, it will be easier for you to just move on from this stupid chick.

Vicente Esteve > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 18:06

Im sorry man, really, honestly, sincerely. A couple of things I thought about, I know you are now too pissed, and that fine, but I have to give mi Oppoinion.

1. I see and understand perfectly that you still have interest in her. I see that as some hope of doing one last try. All I can think of is this: You will wait to her text. You will respond, but right after say "Can I make a promise with you". She will say yes. Then you will tell her: " If you do end up returning with "X" guy, and you end up separate or leaving him, would you promise to try a something between us?" If she agrees and she ends up breaking up with that dude, then you have a chance. And damn you have to take advantage of it. If she disagrees to the promise, then, pass the number 2.

2. It has been said a lot, and I don't like to follow, but moving on. It may be hard, it may be painful, but it can open the doors for something new. Something that is worth the time and energy. ( I am contradicting myself here from the last comments.)

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > jkm7680
05/06/2014 at 18:17

Well things have just gone even more south... she said that she was thinking about when we were talking about personal things earlier and wanted to keep going on about that. I said yes, and ive found out a lot... and now I feel like a dick for what I said honestly since it seems like I only wanted to be with her for a relationship... fuck me

Jeff-God-of-Biscuits > jkm7680
05/06/2014 at 18:18

Probably a bad idea to try to have sex with a fish right now though. I promise they will through you out of the seafood section if you do.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Vicente Esteve
05/06/2014 at 18:19

That first tip is actually very clever. Sadly things have just gone quite south for me as I tried to break it off saying that we were still friends but id like to try and separate me trying to be with you.

Then she decided to turn personal again and i am learning so much about her that breaks my heart honestly... im struggling here

jkm7680 > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 18:37

Yeah, That's a tough situation. It'll probably resolve itself over time if nothing else.

jkm7680 > Jeff-God-of-Biscuits
05/06/2014 at 18:37

UH-OH. I'm no longer allowed in Trader Joes apparently.

Makoyouidiot > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 19:25

Drop her like a sack of rotten potatoes. Trust me from long, sad experience, you will be better off. Ignore any attempts to communicate.

Renescent > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 19:37

Bullet dodged, there's plenty of other crazy chicks out there that will actually want to be with you.

DancesWithRotors - Driving Insightfully > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 19:44

Step 1: Drink a beer.

Step 2: Buy a Fiat.

Step 3: Be happy, because you have a Fiat to work on, and a beer. When the Fiat runs reliably, then go find a woman who appreciates you.

Step 4: If 3 doesn't work, get another beer and go back to work on the Fiat. It's probably broken by this point.

Vicente Esteve > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 20:15

I get you man, honestly, I don't know what else than to cling on and just try and love past this shit. I know it is hard, but there is always a chance that she will be alone again. And there is ALWAYS that person who will be for her. You. So don't give it all up yet. Good luck.

Squid > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
05/06/2014 at 22:09

Well after being friend zoned like this so many times my self, I just stop investing any time into those girls. I'm over the friend zone and it may sound insensitive but I'd much rather hang out by myself and drink beer and play video games or work on my car than spend time with a girl that has put me in the friend zone. That is doubly so if she wants to spill her guts about an on again off again boyfriend, that is an immediate pull the rip cord and say your farewells. You end up being the emotional dump for all the shitty things the other dude does to her and all it will do is piss you off more. There isn't any need to be rude, but short responses and lack of attention will protect you from the emotional baggage that comes along with the friend zone. . . .

But I don't really know what I'm saying, its probably bad advice seeing that I am perpetually single. . . . . . But seriously the friend zone will only fuck with your brain, it did mine for way too long.

DipodomysDeserti > For Sweden
05/07/2014 at 09:19

Or she might be sixteen.

EvilFD > DipodomysDeserti
05/07/2014 at 20:12

Exactly, they're both just kids.